Time to breathe

Good Afternoon everyone,

I hope you’re all having a lovely relaxing Sunday, doing Sunday-esque things (e.g. sleeping, eating or relaxing). Following my previous post I thought it would be important to have a bit of a catch up. Much to my own dismay and despair in the last few weeks I have taken a gap year from my studies. Yes, that means I’ve paused my 3rd year until next September so that firstly I can get better and feel more like myself and secondly as my blog post title suggests I have time to breathe. This time to breathe is something all of us are guilty of forgetting to do, especially in this generation we’re always so busy checking our phones, getting jobs, getting work experience, seeing friends, updating social media about said friends and work experience.

I want to emphasise how important this time to pause and reflect is for me especially. Some people might think that I’ve just taken the easy option out of the stress of 3rd year of uni, but I haven’t left permanently I’m going back next year no question. But I’ve been constantly switched on with work, family, uni, exercise and stress for a good few years and its taken its toll on my health because I haven’t stopped once, and quite frankly I’m exhausted. I’m not looking for a pity party because I know its my own fault really, but I’ve decided to make this decision for this time off, for me, because it is the best thing for me and everyone around me as well…I hope.

I’m going to keep a part time job and work on my dissertation when I feel strong enough to do so. It’s not the end of my studies, and I’m far from giving up and hiding in a hole. But as I write this post, I’ve just taken some healthy banana bread cupcakes out of the oven (own recipe, woohoo!), I’ve got a cup of lemon green tea and cosy socks on and I’m planning what I’m going to do for the next few months and I know I’ve made the right decision for me.

Whether it be a gap year travelling abroad, time to recuperate at home or a break to get some work experience- it is okay to stop and take some time for yourself. Don’t let anyone pressure you otherwise because you’ll end up like me, ill and unhappy before you have no choice but to stop! I’d have loved to finish my degree in three years, but clearly that just isn’t how things have planned out- time to move forward and make the best of what is happening, now I have the time to breathe.

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The Final Act is Always The Hardest

Hey everyone,

Back to University again so back to the blog I suppose! Now I’d like to say this is going to be a happy post but I wanted to talk about something that might be considered fairly taboo in the mad excitement of University, freshers week and everything anyone will ever tell you about it. It can be a very lonely place even with a society for every zany habit under the sun. Don’t get me wrong I have amazing housemates, a lovely house for my last year and great friends on my course but still I have to say I feel very alone. I know its not something everyone experiences, and its a difficult feeling to articulate but I’ve just started my final year of Uni, the work load is already beyond belief and expectation is just horrendously high from lecturers to my well wishing grandparents. Yet I’m sat here thinking, am I the only one who isn’t happy here? I don’t enjoy the work anymore, I don’t feel like I have the time to go out and enjoy myself with all the work and right now I just want it all to be finished so I can say that I’ve got my degree. Thats not really how it should be…is it? I want to enjoy my final year, cherish every last bit of freedom and student loan that I have left. But right now, I’m not in that place at all.I admit that I haven’t been overly well in the past few months and its made matters worse, so I’m questioning do I stay and last it out, possibly at the expense of my health and happiness or stop, give myself time to recover and recuperate and begin my final year how I should in September but let everyone else around me down?

I know I’m not the only student who feels like this but it is never talked about and I definitely think that needs to change. University is and can be a very lonely place but it doesn’t have to be if you ask for help. I never ever thought I’d be in this position, but here I am…

Just a little note…

Hello everyone,

For those of you who have been following me for a little while now you’ll know that I have mainly been blogging on University based subjects and advice ect. But I’ve come to enjoy my time blogging so much that I’ve decided to broaden my horizons and just blog on problems, issues, advice and life in general that I experience or want to share, I promise I won’t pollute your readers with make-up reviews and hauls! Since it’s Spring, a time of new life and new starts so I think it’s a well timed move.

But in the time of essays for me, ugh I hate this part of the term, I thought I’d share this quote I found which is so appropriate!

“If you get stuck, get away from your desk. Take a walk, take a bath, go to sleep, make a pie, draw, listen to ­music, meditate, exercise; whatever you do, don’t just stick there scowling at the problem. But don’t make telephone calls or go to a party; if you do, other people’s words will pour in where your lost words should be. Open a gap for them, create a space. Be patient.”- Hilary Mantel 

Enjoy your week.

xx

EXAM STRESS!!

So it’s just hit me that not only do I have to hand in two long essays at the end of this term, submit a dissertation proposal and module preferences…of course it’s also almost that horrible time of year where exams and revision begin once more. University exams are somewhat easier I think than A-Levels (at my Uni for History at least) because you can be more selective about what you learn rather than being expected to memorise the entire syllabus back to front, inside out and have the ability to recite it in greek whilst drunk (slight over exaggeration, maybe).

Revising over the Easter holidays is a very sad truth and inconvenience but it has to be done and will it will reflect in your final mark trust me! Make sure you’re taking in-depth notes throughout the term and go that extra mile and it will totally pay off in the long run, and make revision miles easier. This advice may be coming a tad too late for some of you I guess, especially since most of us are 2/3 through our second term…Oopsy.

But it is super important to remember to have time off, chill out and do something to reward yourself for all the work you’ve done. During exam time I usually revise 10-1 then have a break then from about 2-5\6ish so then I have the evening to do whatever I want knowing that I’ve worked hard all day! Take your mind off your work, play some sports, it’ll be sunny (hopefully!) Get away from that computer screen or grim textbook and give your brain a break!

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“If stress burned calories I’d be a supermodel”

I’m the kind of person who is so organised and gets stressed about the smallest thing being late or out of place so having these exams looming is the worst and sadly I do just want to start revising now to make sure I’m ready. But I think I just have to make sure that I relax and take my time with all of it otherwise I’ll end up freaking out and getting a rubbish mark (this has happened) and I do not want to have to come back and retake anything in August. NO. THANK YOU.

This wasn’t really that much of an advice post, more of a destress and diary for me…sorry guys! But I’m sure some of you might be thinking the same at the moment or starting to think about upcoming exams. Whatever happens, as long as we try our best and work hard then at least we can say we did all we could rather than regretting not working hard enough! (If that makes sense)